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What Do Single Women Really Want From Men?

This is a rhetorical question really it is, because all women are different and have different romantic templates upon which to base their expectations for relationships so allow me to proceed with a bunch of generalizations that have a basis only in my experience!

What today’s women want is best summarized by the word partnership. More on this later.

In these ambiguous times, no one really knows what to expect from a relationship. Things are confusing from the start, at least for old foggies like me! Thanks Sex in the city (backlash)!

Who initiates?

Who pays?

Who calls(or texts) first?

When is it (ever) okay to talk about marriage,kids,finances,exes?

Basically anything of any significance.

Now that we are almost equal (if you think women earning .78 cents on the dollar to men is equal), men are looking at us to be independent. If women were anymore independent we would evolve into autoreproduction.

Since women are now the primary breadwinners in many homes across the country, account for the most students in universities, etc., so what do we really NEED from men now that the whole pesky survival thing has been tightened up?

The same thing that we have always needed,

Love.

Man love. It’s nothing like it. It is what makes us go crazy and stalk you and check your email.

Man smell, the feel of tickly whiskers in sensitive places.

Man hands, rough and gentle.Strong and insistent.

No matter how insecure you may feel (or we may try to make you feel during an argument) about “who wears the pants”, or makes the most money, the fact is that you mean more to us than that.

Let me tell you the truth.

The most high powered execu-bitch, that goes home to a empty bed would sacrifice a few hundred thread counts on those sheets if it meant sharing them with someone else and getting felt up with those man hands.

So many beautiful, intelligent women going unloved because someone told them that having a man with a lower income = settling. It is only going to get worse.

What having a man with money used to stand for can be replaced as we create our own status and redefine what it means to be a modern woman. Having it all is a Madison Avenue slogan that has caused a lot of depression and unhappiness in the lives of many women and subsequently , the men in their lives too. So basically, everyone.

Why can’t we have it all because we help each other have it,take care of it, maintain it together?

A man that in this day and time that can’t change a diaper, isn’t really a man in my opinion! lol. Go on craigslist right now and the handyman industry is booming with men eager to pick up where a husband used to be with the “Honey-do” lists.

If I can pay someone to hang up some shelves and get the hell out, why shouldn’t I?

If he can get some free porn and get one off without having to take someone to dinner and listen to bs,why should he?

Shelves and sex is pretty much what the transaction has been reduced to!

As a single woman, I can speak openly. What I want is a reliable man.

Let me elaborate on what I mean by reliable.

A reliable man is someone that does more than just pay for things, he is someone that knows that his physical presence is more important than his financial presence. I have a pet peeve about answering the phone. I refuse to have a text-based relationship with someone. Not that I want to keep tabs on a person because I’m quite busy myself and have never been a bugaboo, but to me,I need to know that if I need the person, they will answer the phone. I get freaked sometimes by life in New York. I want to know that someone will come and get me if I get myself into trouble.

Really, I guess things haven’t changed that much after all! What women want is to know someone will come and get them if they find themselves in a jam. Call it damsel in distress if you want but let me know if you disagree. No amount of money in the world will replace a (small, medium, or big) strong man when a mouse is in the apartment, or some idiot is talking shit on the street or you just want to feel something hard against your softness.

Take that however you like and enjoy!